Waking from Hunger? 6 Questions to Ask Yourself

July 24, 2018

 

 

 

 

We are all willing to do whatever it takes to ensure that our babies are properly nourished,

obviously, but as anyone who’s been through this glorious journey of motherhood will tell you, kids are shrewd.  They are unimaginably clever.  They will find ways to get what they want and they will repeat them relentlessly.

 

Which is not their fault, obviously.  They are just working off of instinct.  They know what they like, and at a young age, they like mom.

 

A lot.

 

I’m talking all mom, all the time.  Too much is never enough.

 

And given the fact that they really only have one method of communicating, if mom is not around and they want her, well they fire up the lungs and they cry.

 

However, obviously they don’t only cry because they want mom.  They cry because they are uncomfortable, or because they have got a dirty diaper, or because they are too hot or too cold, and they cry because they are hungry.

 

So when babies wake up in the middle of the night and they start crying, it’s tough to determine whether it’s because they need to eat or because they just want to see mom back in the room.

 

I’m not trying to tell you that you shouldn’t respond to your baby’s crying.  You know your baby better than anyone and I imagine you can tell when something needs to be addressed based on the decibel level, intensity, pitch, and duration.  But having said that, if your baby is waking up seven or eight times a night and insisting that you come in and rock her back to sleep, that can have a serious impact on everybody’s sleep, including hers.

 

A lot of babies have developed a dependency on nursing, rocking, sucking, and so on, in order to get to sleep, and it’s not something they can overcome in 15 or 20 minutes. Solving that issue takes some real work and a firm commitment from you.

 

First things first, here are a few things to consider when you’re trying to determine this oh-so-prevalent parental riddle.

 

1. IS BABY UNDER SIX MONTHS OLD?

 

Up until about the six month mark, babies typically need at least one nighttime feed. Their tummies are small, they haven’t started solid food yet, and formula and breast milk digest fairly quickly, so there is a good chance they are going to get a case of the munchies during the night.

 

This isn’t the case for all babies, obviously. Some infants sleep through the night without a feed from a very early age and then pig out during the day, but generally speaking, you can expect to be summoned for a nighttime feed up until baby hits about six months.

 

2. IS BABY EATING ENOUGH DURING THE DAY?

 

Once baby is capable of sleeping through the night without a feed, you need to make sure she is getting the calories she needs during their daytime hours. The best way I have found to make this switch is to throw in an extra feed during the day, or by adding an ounce or two to each bottle throughout the day. This is also a great time to think about introducing solid foods. The good news here is that baby’s body will typically adjust over a night or two to start taking in those additional calories during the daytime once he is no longer getting them at night.

 

Just a quick but SUPER IMPORTANT reminder... Before you attempt to make any changes to your baby’s feeding schedule, talk to your pediatrician. Nighttime sleep is awesome but calories are essential.  If your little one is underweight or not growing as fast as she should be, it might not be a good time to wean out night feedings, so again, chat with your doctor.

 

3. IS BABY FALLING ASLEEP QUICKLY WHEN YOU FEED?

 

I’m sure you know this scenario. Baby starts crying 45 minutes after you put her down, you go in and offer a feed which she eagerly accepts, she takes about three quarters of an ounce, then promptly passes out.

 

If this is happening frequently, it’s a good sign that your little one’s feeding for comfort instead of hunger. Babies who are genuinely hungry will usually eat until full, whereas those who are feeding for comfort tend to drift off pretty quickly once they have gotten what they are looking for.

 

4. DOES BABY SLEEP FOR A GOOD STRETCH AFTER FEEDING?

 

If baby does take a full feed at night, she should be able to sleep for around 3-4 hours afterwards. An average sleep cycle for babies around the 6 month mark is somewhere in the 45minute - 1 hour range, so if baby is waking up around that time span after eating, it is likely that he is dependent on the sucking and soothing actions of your feeding routine to get back to sleep.

 

5. WILL BABY GO BACK TO SLEEP WITHOUT A FEED?

 

Falling asleep while you are hungry is tough, regardless of your age. Your brain recognizes hunger as a priority and will stay alert until the need is met, or until you are exhausted enough that the need to sleep overrides the need to eat.

 

So if your baby really is hungry, she usually won’t go back to sleep very easily until she has been fed. If she nods off after five or ten minutes of crying, that is a pretty reliable sign that he was just looking for some help getting back to sleep and not actually in need of a feed.

 

6. DOES BABY FALL ASLEEP INDEPENDENTLY?

 

Here lies the secret sauce. The cornerstone of the whole equation, this right here. Can your baby fall asleep on his own?

 

If you can put your baby down in her crib while she is still awake, leave the room, and have baby fall asleep without any help from you, without a pacifier, or any other kind of outside assistance, then those nighttime cries are far more likely to mean that she genuinely needs a hand with something when she wakes up crying at night.

 

Determining whether your baby is hungry at night is obviously a complicated situation. Calories are vital but so is sleep, so we typically end up paralyzed trying to balance the importance of the two. This tightrope is immeasurably easier to walk once you have taught your baby the skills he need to fall asleep on his own. Once the habit of feeding to sleep is broken, you can feel much more confident that his requests for a nighttime feed are out of necessity and not just a way of grabbing a few extra minutes with mom.

 

And, as always, if you are looking for some help teaching your little one those essential sleep skills, we’ve got you covered.

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